About Me

IMG_0851I’m a forty-something, divorced, mother of two boys. I weigh more than I’d like and have more debt than I’m comfortable with. There are often dishes in the sink and laundry on the floor and am not always as patient with my teenage son as I think I should be. I have my struggles…you and I are no different. I am also a loyal friend, loving mother, care-taker of planet earth. Over the years I’ve seen glimpses of the real me. Bits and pieces of my authentic self that I’ve been able to excavate from time to time. But I also noticed I still tend to wear the masks of who I think I should be. Someone who is acceptable, likable, “normal”…as if there is such a thing.

In 2009, six years after my husband and I divorced, I reconnected with an old friend from high school on Facebook. There was an immediate connection and sparks flew! A whirlwind romance ensued…we were soulmates. We planned to get married and combine our bi-coastal lives. I thought I finally had my life figured out. But after 15 months together, he ended the relationship with no explanation.  In an instant, my whole world fell apart. 

I was devastated and lost…and alone. I had worked so hard to be who I thought people wanted me to be, I didn’t even know who I was anymore. So I took a long, hard look in the mirror and decided to do something different. I decided to be more open, more vulnerable, more honest…more real. I also decided to be more accepting of myself and my perceived flaws. Being real means showing you all of who I am…even the stuff I don’t like. And that’s how this blog was born.

As I travel this road, be prepared for me to contradict myself and change my mind. Things I once believed so strongly about I may question later. There will be typos and grammatical errors as I give myself permission to write as I talk…honestly and from my heart. There will be ups and downs and sideways moments. While it may not be literary genius, I hope it touches you in some way. Maybe you’ll see yourself in me and realize we are all so very much more alike than we are different.

For many years I tried to keep everything under control…to keep all the balls in the air. But I’ve since realized you have to be willing to let it all fall apart in order to really live. Life is messy. Get your hands dirty, muck it up. Perfection is an illusion. Be real. Be you.

So here it is. It’s not perfect, but it’s me…and that’s enough.

Some days I feel like I have what it takes to save the world. And some days I feel like a scared little girl looking for answers. But most days I just pray for that middle ground — for the strength to see the gift of each day just as it is. This is what I want you to know about me. I’m nothing special and I’m amazingly special. I’m small and scared, yet big and bold. Ready to take on the world, but wanting to hide away unnoticed. Taking risks — playing it safe. I am the ultimate paradox.

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12 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Lisa
    Jan 23, 2011 @ 18:50:27

    I admire your courage! I know your blog is going to inspire and move me! 🙂

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  2. Your Gina
    Feb 08, 2011 @ 00:24:08

    WOW! Just found this…I am speechless! You have a true gift, your ability to express yourself through written words is incredible. Thank you for sharing your gift/your true self with the world, Sasssay!!!

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  3. Sue
    Apr 18, 2011 @ 08:12:48

    Hi – thanks for inviting me to view your blog (through Francine’s FB page). I can totally relate to everything that you’ve written (that I’ve read so far) and while I wish I had many words of wisdom to impart on you, the best I can do is share the best lesson that I learned — you are not alone. :o)

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  4. Tracy
    Aug 08, 2011 @ 08:46:40

    Hi Lisa,

    This is a wonderful, inspiring piece that holds a piece of truth for all of us.

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  5. Coni Green
    Sep 01, 2012 @ 20:02:33

    Hi Shannon! Coni Green here. You are very good at this. I love reading your writing. I would like to start a blog too. You have inspired me. Keep writing my friend. ~c~

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  6. KatieP
    Jan 10, 2013 @ 18:52:55

    Hi Shannon
    What you express in the second last paragraph is exactly my story. It is comforting to know that I’m not alone. I look forward to exploring getting to know you more through your writing.
    Katie x

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  7. willowmarie
    May 04, 2013 @ 21:41:08

    I think u can do this- u have courage & clear sightedness- u’re well on your way!

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  8. Donna Bunten
    Aug 20, 2013 @ 08:55:43

    Hi, Shannon,
    I “discovered” you through your post about your Haven experience–Laura shared it with the members of the upcoming retreat, and I’m one of them. Reading about your experience made me feel like you’ve been in my head poking around. I am touched by your authenticity and fearlessness, your ability to express it, and I look forward to reading more.

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    • Shannon McDonough
      Aug 21, 2013 @ 12:25:47

      Donna,

      I’m so excited for you to experience Haven. Laura has created such a safe and nurturing space to explore your writing. It will truly change you. It sounds like what goes on in my head is also what’s going on in yours. One of the reasons I write and share my experience is so others will realize they’re not alone. Thank you for allowing me that opportunity.

      Much love,
      Shannon

      Reply

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